What is Emotional Independence?

Welcome to The Start Point.

The start point is wherever you are in your current journey to emotional independence. It doesn’t have to be any better or worse than anyone else. This course is not about shaming you, judging you, or making you feel bad about where you are. Where you are is where you are, and it’s a perfect place to begin. 

So, let’s begin with this section. We will be defining emotional independence, learning how to get from your start point to your end point, and understanding the common obstacles that might get in the way. 

We’ll end the section with a pledge to yourself: a pledge to solidify your commitment to your growth and wellbeing. 


What is Emotional Independence?


Emotional Dependence and Addiction

Different Kinds of Addicts:

Ingestive Addict: drugs, alcohol, food, smoking, or anything taken into the self to distract or alter feelings. This is the most obvious of the addictions, and the one we judge the harshest. 

Activity Addict: work, shopping, gambling, sex, internet, religion, care-taking, or any activity that distracts or alters emotions.

Emotion Addict: rage, sadness, love, lust, or fear. Rageaholics and Adrenalin junkies are emotion addicts. They can’t release a specific feeling because they get a high from feeling it. Sadness addicts will watch shows and movies that keep them sad, they’ll listen to songs about heartbreak, and tell the same sad stories over and over again. Even though it seems contradictory, sadness addicts get a high from being sad. They’re addicted to the feeling.

Cognitive Addict: obsessive over people, hobbies, fantasies, daydreaming, shows, movies, books, and fictional characters. Also includes people who are too logical or occupied in their minds most of the time. Thought addicts are obsessed with their thoughts. They’re obsessed with worrying, over-analyzing, and talking about the same things over and over again. 

Possession/Thing Addict: money, cars, collectibles, shoes, purses, hats, etc. Thing addicts use the collection of certain items to distract or alter their emotions. 

Self Addict: obsessed with looks, plastic surgery, weight, self-image, self-improvement, perfectionism, and how they appear to others. Addicted to praise, envy, and approval from others.